The Standard by Rosanna 馃拵

Rosanna @rosannagems95

Here to remind you who you are 馃拵 The advice nobody gave you. The sister you'd love to have.

Love 路 work 路 self-worth 路 alignment 路 becoming her

You already know what's wrong. Here's what to say next.

She tells you the truth, she's on your side, and she always has the next line ready.

For when they're affectionate one day and distant the next. When they said they'd plan the next date and went quiet. When you said yes again and meant no.

Get The Standard 路 $38
249 pages 路 9 modules 路 5 bonusesFor women and men, 18+Instant download
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Rosanna 路 dating coach and creator 路 @rosannagems95

Sound familiar

Six moments this was built for

Knowing your attachment style never helped at 2am. These are the moments where you need the next sentence, and each one has a module.

They're affectionate one day and distant the next, and you don't want to seem needy.

Read People Field Guide: 12 mixed signals decoded, plus a 4-week consistency test

They said they'd plan the next date. Then nothing.

Field Guide: ghosting, and The 30-Day Recovery Plan

Different person, same ending. Again.

The Pattern Workbook: 21 days to spot the pattern you keep repeating

You said yes when you meant no, and now you're resentful.

Boundary Scripts Library and AI Practice Conversations

You haven't made it past a first date in months.

Date-Ready Kit: profile, first messages, a page just for men

You're independent, you're starting over, and you're lonely.

Date-Ready Kit: dating again after a long relationship or divorce

What's inside

Nine modules, one system

Most dating guides stop at insight. Every module here ends in something you do: a line to say, a test to run, a page to fill in.

01

Start Here Guide

Find your situation and open the right page tonight. Seven principles and four first-month plans.

11 pages
02

The Pattern Workbook

Map your last three relationships, reflect on how you bond, and write your standards down.

21 days 路 37 pages
03

Boundary Scripts Library

112 scripts for 13 situations, each with why it works and what to say if they push.

42 pages
04

Read People Field Guide

45 green, yellow and red flags, mixed signals decoded, love bombing, and romance-scam signs.

22 pages
05

The Date-Ready Kit

Profile, 20 first messages, a safety plan, 90 conversation questions, and dating again.

22 pages
06

The Decide Kit

Define it, check the relationship's health, decide to stay or go, and end it well.

17 pages
07

30-Day Recovery Plan

One page a day after a breakup, a ghosting, or a situationship that never got started.

30 days 路 39 pages
08

AI Practice Conversations

30 role-plays. Paste one into any AI chat app and rehearse the hard talk before you have it.

30 prompts 路 20 pages
09

The Dating Tracker

An Excel spreadsheet that scores flags and shows whether someone is consistent, week by week.

Spreadsheet 路 7 tabs
+ 5 bonuses48 printable pocket script cards12 phone wallpapersThe Unsent Folder journal30 Solo DatesWhen Your Friend Is In It

Real pages

See exactly what you get

Two pages straight from the kit, unedited.

A page from the Boundary Scripts Library with early-dating scripts
Boundary Scripts Library, page 6
The 12 mixed signals decoder table from the Read People Field Guide
Read People Field Guide, page 8

Three of the 112

They text every day but never make plans

"I like talking to you. I'd like it more over coffee. Are you free Thursday or Saturday?"

The 1am "I miss you," three weeks later

"I'm not reopening this. Take care."

A parent comments on your choices, again

"I didn't ask for input on this one. I'll let you know if that changes."

Rosanna relaxing on a sofa, smiling

Meet Rosanna

Here to remind you who you are

The advice nobody gave you, from the sister you'd love to have. Rosanna covers love, work, self-worth, alignment, and becoming her.

The Standard puts everything she teaches in one place, with a script for every hard moment. Want more? She's posting every week.

How it was built

Research you can look up yourself

The kit doesn't ask you to take anyone's word for it. Every research claim names its source.

If-then plansGollwitzer & Sheeran, 2006. Why every script is organized by situation.
Follow-up questions and likingHuang et al., 2017. The basis of the first-date conversation pages.
The liking gapBoothby et al., 2018. They probably liked you more than you think.
The Four Horsemen and their antidotesThe Gottman Institute. The relationship health check.
Breakups and your sense of selfSlotter et al., 2010; Larson & Sbarra, 2015. The 30-Day Recovery Plan.
Online dating and romance scamsPew Research Center, 2020 and 2023; FTC, 2023.

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Everything, one price

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9 modules + 5 bonuses249 pagesUnder $3 a tool

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The first pages of all nine modules of The Standard laid out in a grid
  • Start Here Guide
  • The Pattern Workbook (21 days)
  • Boundary Scripts Library (112 scripts)
  • Read People Field Guide
  • The Date-Ready Kit
  • The Decide Kit
  • 30-Day Recovery Plan
  • AI Practice Conversations (30 role-plays)
  • The Dating Tracker spreadsheet
  • 5 bonuses, including 48 pocket cards and 12 wallpapers

Honest fit

Who this is for, and who it isn't

It's for you if

  • You know what you want to say and keep over-explaining instead.
  • You're dating, starting again, stuck in a maybe, or getting over someone.
  • You'd rather practice a hard conversation than wing it.

It isn't for

  • Relationships with fear, threats, tracking, or violence. Those need a real safety plan with trained people.
  • Replacing therapy. If you're struggling, a licensed professional can help in ways a kit can't.
If you feel unsafe National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. Ages 13 to 26: love is respect, 1-866-331-9474, or text LOVEIS to 22522. In emotional crisis, call or text 988. In immediate danger, call 911.